About Toska

I spent seventeen years in a marriage that taught me how to disappear.

I learned how to make myself smaller. How to explain away things that shouldn't need explaining. How to perform happiness while something inside me was quietly dying.

And then one day, I stopped.

Not dramatically. Not with a speech. I just looked at my life and realised: I don't recognise the woman living it. And she deserves better than this.

That was the beginning. Not of healing — healing came later. That was the beginning of choosing myself.

From surviving to transforming

I started sharing my journey on Instagram because I needed to say the things out loud that I'd been swallowing for years. I didn't expect anyone to listen.

50,000 women listened.

They didn't just listen — they responded. In the comments, in the DMs, in messages that started with "I thought I was the only one." They told me about their seventeen-year marriages, their five-year relationships, their situations that looked nothing like mine but felt exactly the same.

That's when I understood: this isn't my story. It's ours.

Transform With Toska exists because transformation shouldn't be something you do alone in your bathroom at 2am reading self-help quotes. It should be supported, structured, and surrounded by women who understand — because they're doing it too.

What This Is Not

This is not therapy. This is not coaching. This is not someone telling you what to do.

This is a space where women who are ready to stop explaining themselves, stop shrinking, and stop waiting for permission — come together to build something better. With real tools, real community, and real accountability.

The hard truth is most of them never forgot their worth. They just never fully learned it in the first place… The work isn't remembering your worth. It's building the belief from scratch that you had it all along.

— @itsangmazur

Many Butterflies 🦋

Every woman who joins this community is part of Many Butterflies.

Not because transformation is pretty — it's not. The cocoon is dark, uncomfortable, and disorienting. But what comes after? That's the part nobody tells you about. The part where you realise you had wings the whole time.

Because I know there is a way through. I've walked it.

And I want to take you with me.

This isn't just content to me. This is a journey of freedom, of rebuilding, of coming back home to yourself. And you are all my Many Butterflies. I want you free.

With everything I've learned, everything I've lived, I will do everything in my power to guide you there.

We're not staying stuck. Not anymore 🩵